Child-Centered Divorce

I've recently connected with the initiator of National Child-Centered Divorce Month (which is each July), Rosalind Sedacca. She has written an interesting book: How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? This book walks parents through developing their own personalized storybook to use with the children, in order to get across the important messages children need to hear from their parents during the difficult transition:

1. This is not your fault.
2. Mom and Dad will always love you.
3. Mom and Dad will always be your Mom and Dad.
4. You are, and will continue to be, safe.
5. This is about change, not blame.
6. Everything is going to be okay.

Might sound simplistic, but whatever can be done to get parents to stay with these messages, in a consistent and loving way, through the transition, will help children tremendously.
Rosalind laments the irony that people often put more energy into throwing a party than telling the children about this devastating situation. How true!

You can learn more about Rosalind at her website: www.childcentereddivorce.com. And you can learn more about the book at: howdoitellthekids.com.